Ok Seeking.  Sorry to be so blunt, this being the first reply and all but....

1.  All men look and enjoy looking.  Thats how we're built.

2.  If we say we don't it's because we are trying to avoid hurting your feelings because we actually do care about you and on some level know that it would upset you if we said we did.

3.  Looking at other women can be taken to the exteme just like any other thing, ie...drinking, eating, overworking.

4.  I have never met a man that is "grossed out" by porn... That's why the business is so huge.  It does not make it right, but they are appealing to a very basic pleasure center of the male brain.  Like I said before, it can be taken to the exrteme and men should make a conscious effort to avoid it because it's a dangerous road that it leads to, but he is still, on some level, aroused by it.

5.  And this is important....He does not love you any less if he sees a beautiful woman and recognizes that.  As long as men have eyes they will like the site of alluring women.  It is a man's continual battle not to indulge in erotic imagery.  Your man can't help that he likes to see beautiful women.   If you are watching tv together and a commercial comes on and he has to look away and then you are there checking to make sure that he has then what kind of relationship do you have?  would that be a husband wife, equal partner kind of relationship or a parent child type of relationship.  Most men don't want to be married to their mother, or someone that makes them feel like a child. 

6. Please stop trying to diagnose what is going on inside his head...you'll drive yourself crazy (and him too in the process).

7.  Finally...Men shuold not be indulging in Porn (soft or hardcore).  Images will come across and it is our battle not to let our apetite get the best of us.  We should not be seeking this stuff out.  It really is a sick world and the Porn industry is working very hard to draw us in.  A man is going to cheat or not (or look at porn) or not based on his decision, not based on whether his spouse keeps close tabs on him.

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