Hello, I am very recently married.  I have struggled with a friendship my husband has and would really appreciate some advice.  It has probably been the only thing we have fought about since marrying.  He has been friends with a girl for  6 or 7 years prior to us marrying.  They never dated; however, they did approach the subject several years ago and my husband asked her if they should look at dating since they had been such good friends for so long.  She said God had never moved her in that direction and he agreed and the subject was dropped.  My husband says nothing has ever happened between them and they have always been just friends and I do believe that.  He says that their friendship is not deep or that close anymore and he feels that is how it should be since we are married now.  My problem is in knowing where the boundaries should be.  From what I can tell, they text each other probably several days out of the week.  Sometimes it is every day, sometimes they go a week without texting. I have seen some of the texts and they do not appear to be anything deep or romantic.  I have seen texts from him telling her she is awesome and that sort of thing. 

I do not want to be controlling or jealous, especially for no reason.  I want my husband to be happy and to trust him.  I just can't seem to let go of my insecurity with this friendship.  I feel like if some one would tell me it is innocent, friendships are ok, leave it alone...I would.  But I am not sure if this is appropriate and I am just being jealous and insecure or if this is actually inappropriate.  When I look at the friendship between them, it appears to be totally innocent and I don't believe anything is going on between them....so why in the world do I worry so much and get upset about it? 

When I discuss it with him, he gets very upset because he says there is nothing going on and why does it bother me.  He says he has scaled down the friendship and does not communicate with her like he used to.  

Thanks for reading and any advice.