2 years ago my 5yo went to the bathroom while at church. a boy from his sunday school class followed him in and asked my son "if I lick your penis and bottom will you lick mine?" They did but my son told one of his sisters the next day. I called the sunday school director along with the pastor's wife. I spoke with my son about inappropriate touch. We also read the book, Private Zone. We also talked about friends asking to do wrong things.

When I asked why did you do that? His response was that if his "best friend" asked then it was ok. So we talked about that. I think it turned out that the other boy had been abused. He was always a very "aggresive" and "out of control" boy in general. We moved out of the area a year and a half ago.

since that time I have been careful about going into people's homes as now we are in a more suburban area. About a year ago my son was at a neighbor's house, he came home and asked at  why his friend had a picture of a naked girl in his room. This family attends a lot of car shows. His dad works on cars. We think this is a photo of a girl with a car. Then we insituted you cannot go into a neighbor's home rule.

Now, yesterday he went to play at a friend's house. We know the family. They attend our church. They have similar values to us. The mom drops my children off (one of his sister's also went over). The mom tells me, "We had an incident. You will have to ask your son about it. It has to do with xxx's(her son's name) "issues"."

I take my son upstairs with his dad. I ask what went on. He tells me that his friend started asking him to lick his penis. My son told him it was a sin and he would not do it. But the boy kept asking every minute according to my son. My son then said the mom came into the room and he told the mom.

I called another friend and she told me to keep praising my son that he did the right thing. She also said to tell him that if it happens another time to leave the room and find a parent.

I am just devastated. I cannot lock him in his room until he gets bigger but why does this keep happening to my son. I was molested as a child and have wanted to empower my children to avoid this but I have not been able to.Even as I am typing I am just in tears. I want today to be "normal" but everytime I think about it I just get sick and want to burst out sobbing uncontrollably.

I know that prayer works but what else can I do?