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Feb 4, 2010 6:56 PM
My daughter 16yrs liked a boy 4 years older than her when she was 10yrs. He comes from a church family that is very very close to me and my family. We have been friends in church for 10 years now. I stumbled upon a note book she used to write in like a diary, and read what she wrote there (6 yrs ago) " i love.......(boy's name) .... because he is the sweetest and kindest boy I know, I want to grow up and marry him. And if I can't marry him, then I won't marry anyone else. He is such a good christian boy".......... I asked her then, about her feelings and we shared a bit and prayed together and I told her that if it is God's will, then it will happen but she has to continue to do the right thing according to the Word of God.. always. My daughter has made her feelings known to him (the boy she liked) early last year and he has talked to her and said he did not feel that way about her but will pray for her always and is there for her if she ever needs a friend to share with. I share my daughters feelings in thinking that he is the best candidate for a husband for my daughter but i have never let him know that. We have remained very good friends and his parents treat me like their own daughter. 2 years back, my daughter liked a boy in her school, he was a catholic and she was aware of the clashes in their beliefs. I advised her not to pursue any relationship with him, she heeded my words but at the end of that same year, she liked another boy, and he was a year older than her, I advised her, again to let go because it's not helping her. OUr advice to our 3 kids from small is that, no boyfriend/girlfriend relationships until you finish studies. No dating unless with close church member friends and until you have a job and can afford to take yourself to places without asking for money from Mum and Dad. Late last year she liked another boy, who just recently got saved a month before she admitted to him that she liked him. My advice to her always was pray about it and know that she should not be pursuing any kind of communication. He left for USA with his family at the end of last year. Recently, she shared to me that she still likes " that boy" our family friend and that it is not easy not to think about him because he is always so sweet and caring. Her brother, a year older is not close to her and has been an angry brother most of the time even though he cares for her as a brother. My husband and I love her very much and she knows that but somehow I feel she is searching for love and acceptance outside of the family and church. Her mind changes very often when it comes to liking boys. She is a very beautiful girl, and there is a lot of unwanted attention also she has to deal with everyday at school and in church. Your input, advice and prayers are welcome.
