Magmay,

I'm so glad you found our forums.  Thanks for joining.  I appreciate your candidness about your marriage.  You and your husband are certainly going through a difficult time.  You said that trust was broken this year - has it been almost 12 months or less than that?  I can imagine that this year has seemed like a long one - to you and your husband.  But in reality, it has been such a short time of healing.  From our experience helping others go through the healing process after trust is lost, it is not uncommon for it to take at least a couple of years.  That isn't to say that you can't rebuild it sooner, but it may also take longer than you'd like. 

If you haven't already, you might find it helpful to read some of the other threads on this forum.  I've provided the links to a few of them below.  They are written by people who are trying to trust their spouses again, and while their situations may differ vastly from yours, at the heart of their struggle is learning to trust again.  You will see that it is a kind of yo-yo.  One minute, they feel like they're beginning to trust again, only to wake up the next day and find it gone.  Might I also suggest that you check out the links that AnnFOTF provided in the first thread?  I think they will give you additional insight into the process that you and your husband have to go through.  

Can I ever forgive my husband?? Any Advice??

Help to understand

How do I trust my husband?

Also, you didn't mention whether or not you and your husband have others, such as a counselor or pastor, who are helping you both work through this situation.  If not, it might be a good idea.  You and your husband are welcome to speak with our counselors, if you think it would be helpful.  Give us a call if we can do anything -k?

I hope you know how much you and your husband are in my prayers tonight.  Keep me posted on how you are doing.  We'd love to rally around you as you and your husband heal.

Blessings!

Kristy

FOTF Moderator