I'm at a loss as to why this is occurring and how to help change our middle son, who just turned 8, from this disruptive behavior he has acquired.  We, my husband and I are completely baffled as to how this behavior started and as to how we can turn this around to make our home a peaceful, respectful one.  Our son who is in 2nd grade and very bright, has always been 'strong willed' (we've read the book looking for some guidance) and very boisterous, has become outright terroristic to our family.  We recently relocated to another state 10 hours away from where our friends and family are.  We are not sure if this aggravated the situation, but he has become so nasty, aggressive and extremely disrespectful to both my husband and I and to his older sister.  He yells, screams, outright and complete taking back/disrespectfulness and this is on a daily basis, mostly after he gets home from school, and usually multiple outbursts each evening.  My husband and I do not know what to do to change this behavior.  We will do many things to give him attention and try to make his and his sister and younger brother's day (ie: go to parks, beaches, aquariums) and it's constant complaining from him.  It seems we cannot make him happy.

He has been asking his dad to take him to batting practice, (he just got a baseball bag, bats, balls and a baseball glove for his birthday 2 days ago) so his dad took him today for 2.5 hours to a local park to do exactly what he wanted.  He got home, seemed happy, and then within 5 minutes asked to go ride his scooter, which I told him he couldn't as we had to get ready for dinner and it all started: nasty yelling/screaming, stating that he's going out whether I like it or not, that its not fair...   Bottom line, he was sent to his room.  After he screaming, banging on the door and such, he calmed down, asked if he could come out and his father and I stated that if he came down and sincerely apologized that he would be able to come out.  He came down, did exactly that and became calm.  Then within another 10-15 minutes, he was told that he needed to take a shower tonight, and then it started all over again.  It's an ongoing battle EVERY DAY!!  Multiple times a day and I am really physically, mentally and emotionally tired due to his behavior and our needing to constantly be on top of it, as we don't want him to think he can get away with this.

He also likes calling his sister and younger brother (2.5) nasty names, and now it's becoming a problem with our baby starting to use those same words and somewhat acting the same way he does.  We've explained to him that he is to be a role model for his younger brother, as he looks up to him, but he just doesn't seem to care.  We are intimidated about going to anyone's home or having anyone over due to his behavior, because he will do this no matter who is around.

I have asked him why he acts this way and what normally triggers these outbursts, but he says he doesn't know and that when he is doing it he does feel bad but can't stop it.

All we've ever wanted for our family is to have a peaceful, loving, respectful, life.  But with these multiple daily outbreaks, it is very difficult and it is doing harm to our family and our life.  

If anyone has any comments, questions, ideas or insight on what may be happening to him and how we can help him change his behavior we would really appreciated.  My husband and I have prayed on this for months now and I personally feel lost and incapable of helping him.

Thank you for your time and we look forward to any assistance we may receive!

God Bless you all!