seeyalatergator, I just wanted to jump in and let you know I'm praying for you, brother!

It sounds like you have a repentant heart and are doing everything you can to restore your relationship with your wife. Since she has asked you for a divorce, I wanted to take a moment and pray for you and your wife ~

Father, I come before you now on behalf of my brother. He's hurting and believing for a miracle in his marriage. His wife obviously still has some pain she's dealing with following his indiscretion, but Lord, I pray that you would help her heal in any area where she's hurting. Soften her heart towards forgiveness and help her to see how much her husband loves her. Jesus, I ask that you would bless their communication and help them through the hard conversations. Allow them to have honest discussions with one another, share everything that's on their hearts, and come to a place of healing and resolution. God, we believe that restoration is your desire, and no matter what that looks like, we will trust you with the outcome. In Jesus' name, amen.

seeyalatergator, if you'd like to speak with someone about your marriage situation personally, then feel free to give us a call. We're here for you.

Nick

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You know, it makes me very sad to see that when a repentant marriage partner is willing to walk away from the act of adultery and the other marriage partner cannot forgive, yet I know the pain of infidelity.

My beloved (we're divorced by his hand, not mine) cheated on me in more ways than one, yet at the same time, I leaned into God's Word and allowed God to help me to look at how this happened and to help me forgive him. I can handle the affairs because I know that they are a greater escape from some sort of life loss, but it's the deception he continues to live in. If he would come back, if he would repent as you have, if he would be willing to be held accountable for his whereabouts and assure me over and over that he truly loves me for who I am, then yes, I would accept him back...and it sounds like you are paving the way for that.

She may feel as though she can't get out of that mode of thinking that she can't trust you anymore. Torn Assunder is a book that has been written just for couple who are dealing with infidelity. It creates situations and thoughts that both partners must be honest with one another. A friend of mine and her husband went through that workbook and they have recommended to their church. I would highly recommend that book as well. Tell her that you are willing to walk through that book with her.

I know you are in a difficult situation right now. Will be praying for you.

Tiny seeds of blessings grow our faith...

Mayflower

Hi Brother,

we all want our significant others to be a part of of our recovery process; what's most important is that we embark on that journey, with or without them;  we can't force our marriage partner to come along, but God will bless us nonetheless as we step up to the plate; and as spiritual heads of our families, we need to be willing to set the example- believe me, it is difficult at times, but worth it 

Blessings,

Matt

I do so Pray for restoration to Your marriage..as Mine is in trouble as well...I mafe the mistake of thinking( others) could give me the attention I wanted from my husband, come to find out He  has felt he could not talk to me or that I wanted Him. This is Both Our 4th marraige..I keep praying for restoration to Our marriage..I made the mistake of  thinking ( online)   as well as 2( real) people could care for me..WRONG... My husband( Dan) said He still has love for me n that even though He doesn't call me ( by His special name for me) right now..I'll always be His( Sugar)  and He does Love me, he just isnt sure it is enough.

We have been ( together) 6 yrs the 25th of this month.. and married( God willing) April 5th 2010 will be 4 yrs..Please..I do not know what else to do...

I have repented to God n ask forgiveness of God as well as MY husband....He says He has some anger over the past that I have done or not done as well

I keep praying  that God would minister to Him..we are also in finacial bind ( credit cards) and such..now having problem making rent and He has said If we have to move into a smaller place..we may as well separate ...I am doing all I know to do to PROVE to Him..I am re commited to Our marriage...

I keep praying yet it is tough and I know this won't just go away.. the main answers I get from Him is( We'll see...I don't know)...Dear God in heaven

I pray this marriage will not only survive..but be better then ever...thank you for listening