To all the young ladies here, I want to tell you how I made a huge mistake in my marriage.  I am saying this because I do not want it to happen to you, what I am going through.

When I was married (we are taking time apart right now), I felt I was as smart as my husband.  I mean I went to college he didn't, I am in a master program, he can't even spell degree.  Well, you catch my drift.  My husband is really not stupid, however, he is the opposite, he is very smart.  I never allowed myself to see that.  So, whenever he wanted to make a decision for the family I always had a say so and would highly suggest in some way or another  that, if we did not do it my way there are consequences (and I felt God was on my side).  But really, really young ladies, God was not.  God was telling me "be submissive to your husband".  I was like, "No way God, you took a rib bone from Adams side for me to be his equal, you did not take a foot bone from his foot for me to be walked on".  I mean seriously amen to that!

Seriously, duck because lightining is about to hit you!

What I mean is, only through this seperation I would have came to this deep realization, "God knows what he is talking about".  It's not the submissive part that our Chrisitan husbands are snickering behind our backs feeling like they have one up on us, it's the self worth we are giving them.  When our husbands says "let's sell our house, it's okay that we take a 10 grand lost, we can make it up by buying one that is under price and make it up when we sale and the market goes up", the biblical wife says "I am very nervous about that decision, however, God wants you to be the leader of our family, I will pray for the right decision, and honey it's up to you, but can we sit on that for a week and then you make the decision?"  The Christian wife who has not matured in her prayers say "no, I bought that house too, I had to save so hard, you have no idea or value in money, I am your wife, my opionion out weighs yours!".

So, without anymore time left (going to the Women of Faith conference today, yeah), I will end with asking you to listen to Experiencing a Fullfilled Marriage 1 and 2 the speaker Patricia Ashley.  It's on page 3 right now because it moves up pages when they add more broadcast.

Please ladies remember, somebody said something along the line of, it's not the question of you being able to submit to your husband, it's the question of you being able to submit to God, because when you do this, God will work on your husband.

Please PRAY for my marriage and PRAY that God will work on my husband to change his heart to what God wants him to be.  I know that God is already working on me that is why I wrote this.

With love to all you beautiful wives out there,

Mrs. Miller