Me and my husband have been married six years come 12/20.  We have 2 beautiful children together.

This is my delimma, my husband has not supported our household since Feb of this year.  He has been passionately pursuing his dream of

going full time in the ministry by producing his play.  He has had several showings, but these showings do not produce any funds. I work full time and he works part time for our church.  His part time job was supposed to pay for the car that I financed for him (2001 Mercedes Benz S Class 500), but now he is 23 days late paying that.  I am a stickler for good credit, so that has me a little upset.  I respectfully and humbly stated to him if I get one 30 day hit on my credit, I'm selling that car.  He took it as a threat and told me I might as well shut up.

He feels that he is not supposed to earn his living from the secular world, but from the kingdom.  So that leaves me working everyday, with the burden of having to pay for everything. Which I don't, so as of now, he has elected to sleep on the couch as a means of punishing me.  My younger brother has been living with us and giving my husband $500 per month.  That has been helping, since my husband has decided to only be concerned with his drama.  It's not that he's not earning any income, but he spends that on the drama, or buying new outfits when he has a show.

He says the drama could take off and make 1.5 million.  So he has stepped out and booked a theatre with a showing in 1 month.  Problem is he is having trouble coming up with the deposit.  That's when he thinks I should step in. "pay for it", or "put it on credit", or "I should be willing to invest in his vision, other women do".

Then he accuses me of not being submissive, not being a help meet. Not supporting the vision God gave him.  I'm clueless.   I've been searching the word and there is nothing that dictates I should be earning a living to fund his every desire. While he comes and goes as he pleases.   It's always some new venture.  Financing a stump grinder, (he settled for the car instead) T'shirts, CDs, Books, Christmas cards and now the drama.  He says I am supposed to submit EVERYTHING to him. Interpretation...my paycheck.  No, not going to have it.  We have separate accounts as a result of his inconsistencies.

I am trying to obey God's word and stick in there and be patient and trust God.  But this guy is driving me up the wall. I must admit, when we met, he did live at home with his mother and I had just brought my first house.  I was 28 and he was 36. We met at church and was married 7 months later.  I thought he was it and he told me I was it, but I think he was playing my emotions and looking at the benefits, which he is still reaping.   He reluctantly helps with the kids, around the house etc. The last time I asked for grocery money, he gave me $30.00.  Now mind you, our kids are 3 and 1.  I am trying to hold on, but I feel like I'm and he is slipping far away.  And eventhough he is saved, he gets extremely angry when I talk about the bills.  It's like he's single and I'm single by default, except I have the responsibility on my head.

What to do?