Hello everyone.  This is my first post, so I'm not sure how to word this.  Lately, for the past 4 months or so, I have seen a dramatic increase in the amount of time my wife spends on Facebook.  I am not an active member of Facebook, and I have no desire to become one.  I feel like the hours upon hours she spends on Facebook is ruining our relationship, and taking precious time away from our family.  She wakes up at night and logs on, she comes home from work and logs on, she wakes up on the weekends and logs on.  About the only thing she does around the house anymore is cook.  Then she gets right back on Facebook.

I confronted her about this, suggesting it was an addiction, and she bascially told me to deal with my own demons before I confront her about hers.  My problem being that I smoke, and so far have been unsuccessful at quitting.  I am still trying to quit, and I have cut back tremendously, but I still need one or two to get me through the day.  I pray about it constantly and I am confident that He will grant me the victory.

I feel as if she is pulling away from us, and there is nothing I can do to get her back.  So much time and energy is spent on Facebook that she has little or no time for me anymore.  The other thing is this: when she is online it's hard for me to talk to her.  She'll answer whatever I ask her, but then she goes right back to Facebook.  Ok, one more thing--she use the In Private browsing mechanism, and she keeps her profile private so that only her friends can see her page.  Because of what she said in our previous conversation I've not brought it up again, but it is bothering me.

I've continued being as attentive to her and as helpful as I can.  I ask the Lord everyday to give me the strength to continue to forgive what I believe to be her trangressions.  My question is this: Am I viewing this incorrectly--is this just an innocent thing that I am going overboard about?