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cmaryder
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Oct 27, 2009
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Oct 27, 2009 6:54 PM

My wife left me due to emotional cheating

I have been with my wife for almost 2 years. It has been a up and down battle. For the past year her and I have been layed off living on unemployment. We have a 10 month old baby that came into the picture and started alot of the problems. My wifes focus shifted off of me and on to the baby.I have begged for attention and just time away with my wife. She is so attached to the baby and clings to her. I know its the new mommy thing but it has really put a strain on our relationship and I began to resent my baby for taking my wife away from me. I have gone to my wife and asked her for time with me and just to give me some love also but she is always too tired or pushes me away. I have really tried to help more with things and that didnt even work. At times when wed make love it was like I was raping her. I began to think there is something wrong with me and I started texted women just to get that boost of confidence back. She found out the one time and left with my daughter for a week and a half. We worked through it and things were ok for a bit and then it went back to the same way.I got depressed again and started texting again and was caught. My wife has been gone a month with my daughter and refuses to allow me to talk to her and see my daughter. I know what I did is wrong and iam going to counseling and mentoring under a pastor for help. The one time I did talk to my wife she said there is no more in her to give. She refuses to talk to a pastor with me but she goes to my dads church and reaches out and talks to him. But he is reluctent to get involved and sit us both down and make us talk. Iam at my ends rope on what to do and how to try and salvage my marriage. I have been praying for help for over a month..
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1. Oct 29, 2009 8:38 AM in response to: cmaryder
Re: My wife left me due to emotional cheating

Hi cmaryder,

 

Thank you so much for posting your situation here and here, and welcome to our forums.  While we are waiting on the community to offer their input, I wanted to let you know how sorry I am that you are going through all of this.  These are such stressful and uncertain economic times, which can take its toll on every area of our lives.  If you ever just need a listening ear, please feel free to call and talk with one of our counselors on staff. 

 

It is evident that you love and care for your wife deeply and desire to heal and restore the hurt in your marriage.  I commend you for going to counseling and reaching out for help, that is a significant step in the right direction.  I want to encourage you to continue seeking the Lord with all your heart and trusting that He is in control of this situation that seems so completely out of your own control.  Use this time to draw nearer to God, looking to Him for the strength to walk through this trial.

 

Finally, you may find the articles, "Confronting Unemployment" and "Hope for the Separated" to be helpful in light of the circumstances you shared.

 

Know that I am lifting you up in prayer, cmaryder.  Let us know how things are going, OK?

 

Erika

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