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Oct 22, 2009 1:55 PM
I have been married for 23 years, and am married to a small town family practice physician. I had a twinge when we were dating that he would have to be gone a lot for work, but I had no idea! He is married to his work, and I hear the experts say that it takes communication to make a marriage stronger, but how can you do that when there is literally always a constant distraction. If patients aren't calling the house , the hospital is, or if he is home...he is a million miles away thinking about the patients he has at the hospital. He is also in the military and is a high ranking medical person in his air guard unit. He is responsible for taking care of all the medical issues of the soldiers in his unit, so that takes him away at least on weekend a month, but usually on his days off he needs to be at guard (2 hours away) to take care of his medical responsibilities there. There is no code, because there is no communication. I want to be happy in out marriage, and I want him to be happy, but we are very much two ships passing in the night. I can't even affirm to him that he is working hard and doing a good job, because I, in all honesty, do not see or hear from him from 6:30 a.m. to 8-9 p.m. at night, and when he is on call, he doesn't come home at all. He is so tired when he gets home he just wants to sleep or go out into the garage and watch movies by himself. I am very lonely, and my kids need him too.
