Applause for your heart to want to repair your marriage-- many go on, even after an affair to have a terrificly strong and vibrant marriage-- there is hope. In our book, Love Honor and Forgive we interviewed real couples who have done just this-- rebuilt and renewed love. Key are a few things (1) pray for your marriage together and separately (pray for him-- thank God for him). (2) Get wise counsel. Focus on the Family has a reference list of good Christian counselors, and your pastor may also either be a good counselor-- or know one. (3) Get a marriage mentor-- especially someone who has overcome an affair-- they can speak from experieince. If you send me an email at info@farrelcomunications.com, I have a worksheet with many resources to help repair a relationship on the rocks. (4) Make him do the hard work of rebuilding trust so it safeguards him from making this mistake. Not like a private eye but in a natural way. He should want you to know -- it just is a wise safeguard for your newly renewing love. For example, you should ask permission to always know how he spends his time or money; this is made eaiser if you are just really involved in each other's lives-- so rebuild by having some FUN too!  Take up a new hobby together, travel together-- build some new shared positive memories.

Pam