Beautifully put. As a mother of 3 littles my time is consumed but I still have my moments when I pause and ask myself "What great thing have I done? Is this all I have to show for my education and life experiences prior to children? Spit up all over me, 3 wiped bottoms, a kitchen floor splattered with a day of life..." I know in my heart God's face shines down on me and He is pleased I chose to be home with my children when given the choice. But there are many worldly influences that I feel tugging at me to think less of myself and my accomplishments as mom. In the end I go back to Christ. He will complete me and His work in me to serve His greater purpose. I pray that I make myself available so that I am no a stumbling block. That includes my work in the barracks as a full time mommy and COO of the household. AMEN!!!!
This is reminds me of the article with Auston Kutcher in Men's Fitness this month (I think). Where he talks about how he is training 8 hours a day in martial arts because he knows the end of the world is coming and Kutcher wants to protect the ones he cares for, when the end of the world happens. Kutcher goes on to say that it will be survival of the fitest and his training is prepairing him for that. Praise Jesus we don't have to worry about things like this, both fo what Stern and Kutcher are talking about.
Great article JIm Daly!
Bless you Catron- The greastest thing a woman can do is rear her children with the love and knowledge of God. You are truley doing His work, He will bless you and yours. In a world of despair, look to God and give thanks for His comfort and
grace. Pray for others as we need to share His Love and make the world a birghter place, of His Light and Truth.Always
give Him Priase and All the Glory.
Love to You and Yours, Sister Kathryn
For David, and anyone else who reads this . ..
Please, brother, real Christians truly should CARE what other people think of them (like never before), but we are no longer in bondage or fear about it; indeed, we might be the only people who really CAN care in the whole world, who really understand HOW to care; but more importantly, it's Christ IN US who does the caring; God makes the difference; we cannot do this on our own strength. We should never feel alone with people again, since the Lord is there in us too; every spirit led situation involves "God in me", and "them". And woe to us unless we walk in loving submission to the Holy Spirit. Why should we think these things? Here we go VERY breifly . . . "Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may edify another... (Romans 14:19)"..."Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwelleth in you?" (1 Corinthians 3:16); "Giving no offence in any thing, that the ministry be not blamed" (2 Corinthians 6:3) . . . "So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me. . .(Hebrews 13:6) . . ."Hereby perceive we the love of God, because he laid down his life for us: and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren." (1John 3:16) do you see that? . . . . "for the brethren" one thing that means is we care what other people think of us, how they feel about things; it also means we care MORE what Jesus thinks and we let HIM live His love outworkingly so others get a sense of that. When we know the love of God, it makes us able to care what darkness thinks, yet we let Christ overcome that darkness though by our faith, through our words, and through our actions. We are His body now. One huge way He shows His love to the world is though US caring about THEM, another is Him caring for US.
"Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us, Unto him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus throughout all ages, world without end. Amen" . . . (Eph 3:20,21)
The addiction to approval is a serious addiction. The Holy Spirit convicted me that my extremely diligent work to get recognition and approval (and honor and praise) was a very real sin in my life seven and a half years ago. It was the source of my work addiction that was destroying my life. I have been a committed believer in Christ for almost fifty years and it has taken years of work for me to get to the point where I am now in my recovery from these addictions. For some of us knowing what is true in our heads takes a long time to get to our hearts because of our wounds. So, please be gracious and understand that knowing that we are loved with everlasting love doesn't quickly and automatically release all of us from the grip of the lies that our lives' experiences have taught us to believe so deeply. If Mr. Stern is really addicted and he's serious about that, he needs our love and prayers.
A few thoughts of others: "What's needed is not behavior modification, but a heart transformation." Joseph Prince, the charismatic Billy Graham for our time - he's on a number of different TV channels, including the Family Ch.
"Appearance will become more important than conception. Pure thoughts will be replaced with superficiality. The age of possibility might end up to be the age of regret." I don't know who said or wrote this, but I wrote it down last decade.
"A human being is, by definition, a longing for God." Allan W. Jones from Passion Pilgrimage :Notes for the Journey Home (at FOF website)
Awesome post my sister in Christ! I also stayed at home and have raised three sons. Your insight reguarding your purpose will surely reflect in the lives of your children as they grow! May God bless your family and give you strength to give it all every day!!
To Catron,
I was a stay-at-home mom for many years to five children. I homeschooled all of them in their elementary years, some longer than others. I spent a total of 21 years home before I took a job (part-time during school hours only) outside the home. There were times I questioned my worth and the worth of all I was doing. Now my children range in age from 13 to 24. The three oldest are sincerely following the Lord and have chosen to make Christ the center of their lives. That brings such joy to mine and my husband's hearts. One is even a missionary overseas. The two youngest profess to be Christians and are seeking God, though I do believe they still need to go through that process of making the faith they have been taught their very own. I enjoyed being a mother when they were young but I really am enjoying being a mother now, and relating to my children. I don't have any regrets about all those years spent with them. I feel now that I am reaping so much joy and satisfaction.
Being a Christian is trusting and putting all of our hopes in God, We call on Him, our heavenly father, and we look to Jesus, The Son of God, whom was a man on earth following God's Law, we seek to become Christ-Like, calling out to Him for His
guidance and instruction. When we follow Him and Let Him lead the Way, God puts on feet on the path to heaven, He fills
us with His Holy Spirit, sacrifice becomes a blessing- as that is Jesus- giving, caring, sharing, honest and faithful, Light and
Truth, for these gifts are the gifts God offers, the desires of the Heart, where dreams are born, angels sing, the blessing
The Faith and the Light.
Praise Jesus
Amen!
I'll be praying for Mr. Stern. In a way, I know how he feels. I struggled with a "people-pleasing" issue for years. Psychologists call it neurotic imposture. I even did a paper on it in college. I call it addiction to perfectionsim. I thought I would be a failure for the rest of my life. Then I met Jesus. He accepts even my most pathetic failures if I seek Him with a whole heart.
If God can use Peter, the most capital mess-up of the 12, and if He can use Paul, once Saul the mass-murderer, then there's hope for me, and yes, even for Mr. Stern.
Good for you Catron....don't even for one minute think that what you do every day as a stay at home mother is less important or meanginful than a professional alternative. Just think about the investment and the impact you are making in your children. My wife only works part time and I wish so badly that she could stay at home every day, but at the same time she is such a blessing by helping supplement our income. I commend you and other mothers like you! May the Lord bless you every day as you juggle all of your responsibilites. Have a great day!
Catron, I understand what you are saying. When I was younger, I'm now a grandma to 4, I felt the same way. One thing we fail to see is that we are obedient servants to the Lord and our family. This is a privilege. Jesus was often looking for the needs of others~washing their feet, healing the sick~it is He who you serve.
When you look back you will be pleased as you know that you loved your family in a TANGIBLE way~that will be your delight. The people you serve will understand the love you gave and bless you when they have little ones of their own. But, for today, let me say, you are my hero!
Wow...thank you for posting Catron! I feel the exact same way. You put what continually swirls in my mind into words on the screen. The world wants someone else to raise your children while you go to work to pay off debt for new clothes for yourself to return to work, gas at $3.50 a gallon, daycare, extra trips to the doctor because they are in daycare..I could go on and on. At the end of the crazy day, it is me who read them a book, it is me who wiped their tears, it is me who fed them breakfast, lunch and dinner. It is me who teaches scripture and manners. When my husband comes home from work and they run to him in happiness that he is home and they get a break from mom, I also get a break. I am so blessed to be at home with my children. It would be MUCH easier to work in the corporate world. Easy, as you well know, is not always best. When I had my first child, when she would nap for two hours I would spend that whole two hours in my quiet time with God. Now, if I can spend 20 minutes with Him alone, I have accomplished something. I am constantly apologizing to Him for my time management, when He is constantly carrying me!
Thank you so much for your comments! Please know that you have been very encouraging and have ministered to this mommy's heart! Have a sweet day with your little ones and blessings to you and your family.
Oh, Catron, you are doing the most wonderful and thankless job in the world - God bless you! I, too, chose to stay home with my children and I sometimes felt as you do now. But let me tell you, my husband and I have 2 of the greatest kids ever! They are now 26 and soon to be 23. They're both believers, college educated and gainfully employed!!! My daughter is marrying a wonderful Christian man in October and we couldn't be happier (of course, I've been praying for their mates since they were small.) Our kids are very respectful and well-liked, and we all love spending time together. They don't drink, smoke, or swear. I don't think they became the people they are by accident...a lot of love, prayer and hard work went into their upbringing. Keep on doing what you're doing; the time passes by so quickly and you'll have "you" time before you know it.
I'm a believer, and I want people to care for me. At the cost of denying Christ? No, of course not.
But to say that believers don't struggle with the same issues as unbelievers is ignorant.
Thank you Catron for your comment. I, too, am a stay at home mom (of 4), and I am so very grateful to God for this opportunity. Your reminder that in times of worldly pressures and influences bearing down on us we can find our completion in our Savior was, for me, so affirming.
Thank you God, for fellow Christians' encouraging words and prayers,as they are gifts from you. AMEN.
Dear Jim:
If truth be known, would we not find that many a pastor, ministry leader, etc. would be in the same boat. Think of an Old Testament character like Elijah coming to tell the king the truth about what God thought, compared to the many prophets who echoed encouraging words to the king, knowing God did not speak thus.
Under peer pressure how many of us don't speak what the audience need to hear, but give them tickling words of pleasant thoughts. How many of us find ourselves compromising what God wants done for our kids, spouses, friends, because we refuse to lose popularity. In checking my own life over in the past, I am most popular when am operating in the flesh. When operating in the spirit, I am considered out of touch, inconsiderate, not with the times, etc.
Jesus sent the masses away when spoke tough to the crowds. How many churches are more interested in the numbers, rather than the changed lives.
God Bless, and trust this helps,
Brian from London, Canada
This is why Max Lucado's book The Applause of Heaven was so impacting to me. It is so much nicer to be paid to answer the phone, take complaints and fill out forms than to do it all for an unappreciative audience of little ones. I found myself on endless phone calls with clients who not only paid me but followed my advice! How unlike teenagers and how enticing. Yet God showed me the assignments He had for me and I know He is applauding as I do the "works prepared beforehand"
With thankfulness and praise,
a single mom of three and now a grandma.
I've always felt he was in pain, even though I have only seen him a few times on different television programs through the years. His "humor" just screams "LOOK AT ME!' It's just so sad to me that people can't see through his vulgarity and instead pity him. I will pray for
God's intervention in his life. Can you imagine it? I can. God is good...all the time!
It's all about pride --God hates pride-it's the root of all woes.
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Betsy says in response to Janet:
That pastor would be Paster Bill Keller, his website address is LivePrayer.com. He has been reaching out to the unsaved of this world for a long time.
I really thank you for your service!
As a grandparent, I feel boxed in a closet listening to the issues on the news about parents letting their kids drive their cars and party with the other kids and come back with the county police. Don't you think that the embarrassment would teach the parents that responsibility begins at home? This is a wake-up call for the public. Our marriage fortunately is good because our offspring learn from us on how to live and divorces are somewhat symbiotic. Our sons, daughters, grandsons and granddaughters are happily married so far unless a change happens in the family. Hopefully, things will stay good in our family!
We all struggled with knowing that Jesus loves us and that we are complete in Christ.
I'm a SAHM for right now, and I love taking this "vacation" from my career to have time with my daughter. However, I am sometimes hurt by other SAHM's who brag constantly about their choice to stay at home. (We're all full-time parents, whether we work in an office or stay home with our kids)
My reply is that I am no more pleasing to God as a SAHM than I was when I went to the office every day. I please God ONLY because of Christ's sacrifice, not because I took a vacation to be with my daughter.
'Things that make you go hmmm!' Such a good reminder of our struggles and temptations. Convivting needless to say. Great article, excellent perspective and point. Thank you for sharing! Thanks be to Christ!