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Howard Stern's Admission

Posted by Jim_Daly on Mar 23, 2011 10:26:36 AM

I want to share a telling quote with you from the king of shock jocks, Howard Stern. In a wide-ranging interview with Rolling Stone’s Neil Strauss this week, the incredibly raunchy Stern admitted to being addicted to the approval of other people: rollingstonestern.jpg

 

“The curse is I take it so seriously. I gotta know, do you think I did a good show and are you satisfied? That’s the neurosis and that’s the source of all problems for me.”

 

Stern’s bold admission reminds me of a powerful chapter from Dr. Tim Keller’s excellent book, Counterfeit Gods. In “The Seduction of Success,” Keller reflected on this rising culture of competition, as well as our chronic and seemingly insatiable appetite for approval and applause:

 

The human heart’s desire for a particular valuable object (human affirmation) may be conquered, but its need to have some such object is unconquerable. How can we break our heart’s fixation on doing “some great thing” in order to heal ourselves of our sense of inadequacy, in order to give our lives meaning? Only when we see what Jesus, our great Suffering Servant, has done for us will we finally understand why God’s salvation does not require us to do “some great thing.” We don’t have to do it, because Jesus has.counterfeitgods.jpg

 

I can only speculate where Howard Stern is on matters of faith. He has spoken very critically and disparagingly of Focus and, especially, our Super Bowl advertisement two years ago. How much of his “shtick” is an act versus true belief is impossible to measure.

 

But regardless of his faith or lack thereof, I do know where Howard Stern is concerning his need for affirmation. In that regard, he is suffering from what we’re all suffering from: a need to be liked and a craving to know that he’s accepted, not for what he’s done, but for who he is – a person made in the image and likeness of a living and loving God.

 

(Incidentally, several years ago, Stern invited a Christian minister on his show to field questions. Clearly the pastor was there to be mocked. Nevertheless, the courageous guest accepted the challenge. Afterwards he said he received over 3,000 emails, 40% of which were negative and hate filled. Still, more than 1,800 individuals wrote to request prayer and counsel. Talk about outreach!)

 

Since the Fall in the Garden, the human heart has always sought approval in the wrong people, places and things. In fact, many of us will do almost anything for it – whether it’s lie, cheat, gossip, manipulate, steal or even murder. I don’t listen to Howard Stern – but his observation about his addiction is worth listening to - because it bespeaks of the sinful nature of man. Ironically, Howard Stern is admitting to what many of us believers will not.

 

It is only Christ who can tame and reign in this runaway spirit of worldly desire. It is only by Him that we can truly satisfy and heal our broken hearts.

 

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Mar 23, 2011 4:53 PM Guest Greg W.  says:
Isn't it interesting that just prior to Paul giving us, under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit, the "Law of the Harvest" in Gal. 6: 7 - 9, he made this statement, "Do not be deceived."  The human heart and flesh is easily deceived and kept that way because outside of Christ redemption and the Holy Spirit, we want to be deceived!  Thanks for all you do and God bless in Christ!
Mar 23, 2011 5:09 PM Guest janet  says:
WOW!  I think that is so cool about the minister who boldly went to that place to stand and witness apologetically (and "non-apologetically, in a sense!) for Christ!  PRAISE GOD!  I will have to look up who that was.  Awesome.
Mar 23, 2011 4:44 PM Guest Catron  says:

Beautifully put.  As a mother of 3 littles my time is consumed but I still have my moments when I pause and ask myself "What great thing have I done?  Is this all I have to show for my education and life experiences prior to children?  Spit up all over me, 3 wiped bottoms, a kitchen floor splattered with a day of life..."  I know in my heart God's face shines down on me and He is pleased I chose to be home with my children when given the choice.  But there are many worldly influences that I feel tugging at me to think less of myself and my accomplishments as mom.  In the end I go back to Christ.  He will complete me and His work in me to serve His greater purpose.  I pray that I make myself available so that I am no a stumbling block.  That includes my work in the barracks as a full time mommy and COO of the household.  AMEN!!!!

Mar 23, 2011 5:13 PM Guest Dave N.  says:
"It is only Christ who can tame and reign in this runaway spirit of worldly desire.  It is only by Him that we can truly satisfy and heal our broken hearts."    Great summary of the human condition.  It is a treasure to be content in this world.  The longer I live, the deeper and more applicable I see the Word to be.
Mar 23, 2011 5:26 PM Guest Darrell W.  says:
This is also evidenced in the church as to what many will give up Christ for as to be accepted, in, or "cool' within the walls of the church and what they post in the social media on Facebook and Twitter.  It's more important to appease the pride and vanity of the status quo than to be Jesus to someone!
Mar 23, 2011 5:29 PM Guest THOMAS K.  says:
JIM;THIS WOULD BE GREAT FOR HOWARD TO "SCHOCK" HIS PEERS  AND THE WORLD WITH ATRANSFORMATION.WHY NOT?UNDER THAT FASCADE IS THE SAME SKIN AND FLESH WE ALL CARRY.WE ALL LIVE UNDER THE SAME CURSE AS YOU MENTIONED.THIS WOULD BE AN AWESOME TESTIMONYOF GOD`S INCONDITIONAL LOVE THROUGH CLEANING UP HIS TONGUE THROUGH THE HOLY SPIRIT`S INTERVENTION.IT WOULD SHOW THE WORLD ON ADIFFERENT LEVEL IT CAN BE DONE AND NOT TO SHUT IT OUT THE IDEA .AFTERALL LOOK WHAT PAUL WAS DOING TOO THE CHISTIANS BEFORE HE BECAME ONE.LARGE PLANS  APPLY HERE. IT WILL HAVE MUCH MORE IMPACT IF IT SHOULD HAPPEN.IFOR ONE WILL PRAY FOR MY STERN. GOD WILL FORGIVE HIS PAST AS WE WELL KNOW.IT SPEAKS VOLUMES TO BOTH THE SAVED AND UNSAVED.
Mar 23, 2011 5:35 PM Guest Rev Jack W.  says:
I believe I read somewhere of a dysfunctional relationshipp Mr Stern had with his Father. How sad to go through life without approval. Yet once one comes in contact with the Father of creation, we can absolutely receive the approval we need to satisfy our longing for a connection between father and son. Only now, that connection is with God our true Father who can not disappoint. What glory we would see if Mr Stern had that encounter. Let's pray to that end.
Mar 23, 2011 5:38 PM Guest Andrew C.  says:

This is reminds me of the article with Auston Kutcher in Men's Fitness this month (I think). Where he talks about how he is training 8 hours a day in martial arts because he knows the end of the world is coming and Kutcher wants to protect the ones he cares for, when the end of the world happens. Kutcher goes on to say that it will be survival of the fitest and his training is prepairing him for that. Praise Jesus we don't have to worry about things like this, both fo what Stern and Kutcher are talking about.

 

Great article JIm Daly!

Mar 23, 2011 6:12 PM Guest J. S.  says in response to Catron:
Catron, There is no greater human influence in this world than a godly parent. Pouring God's love into the lives of the Children He has lent to you for a few years is of immeasurable worth. In humble gratitude seek God's help to acomplish God's will in training them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
Mar 23, 2011 5:59 PM Guest Jennifer C.  says:
Wow - this is just what I needed to hear today.  I received a call from somoene today that clearly didn't care for me.  An email I had written had been completely misinterpreted and so I guess to make up for what must have been construed as criticism against her she proceeded to criticize me. She didn't want to hear what I had to say she just wanted to tell me how much she didn't like me.  That really hurts and I don't like it when people don't like me.  I am a people pleaser - I want everyone to like me all the time.  Until I read this article I never really thought about why that is all I know is when people don't like me it is about as low of a feeling as it gets.  Clearly God was giving me this article at a time when I was throwing myself a pity party instead of turning to Him for help.  I am so glad the He still reaches out to me even when I haven't initiated it! Thanks for this article and enlightenment and your right I not only didn't admit to having this human addiction problem I was completely oblivious to this being a sin.
Mar 23, 2011 6:00 PM Guest Jennie  says:
I agree! We do crave for many things to make us feel loved, special, valued, etc. Just this last year God showed me how I was seeking the wrong things in life. I was a people pleaser and was also seeking my value in a job well done! Then, I would think, " I am important and being used by God." (Even though I did recieve many great jobs, it was never enough) Yet, God only could show me the truth in it... I didn't realize  the state I was in. I was always searching and never being competley filled.  It was through cancer that I had no choice but to look at what I really craved and what could fill me completely and give me joy. I've always known that I am loved by God with my head, but my heart didn't believe it, because it was trying to earn  the affermation I so desperately craved!  God loves me the same at all times. He will not love me any less or more now or in the future. Wow! I can't understand that! I felt that I need to please him with my choices and what I accomplished, yet that's not true! He loves me because I'm his and He created me, not for what I could do for him. That's hard to understand, but knowing is giving me much peace, joy and love and finally, contentment! Thank you Lord for showing me this truth!!! I love You!!
Mar 23, 2011 6:08 PM Guest David  says:
When one is born of the water and the spirit (Acts 2:38) for the remission of sins(1 John 3:4 def. of sin) they become a son or daughter of God. At this point one does not care of what others think of them. They only care what Jesus Christ thinks of them.  
Mar 23, 2011 6:31 PM Guest Cheryl  says in response to Catron:
The job you are doing is priceless and so important.  We don't get the pat on the back but our reward will be the fruit of our children.
Mar 23, 2011 6:35 PM Guest Jeff  says:
The desire for acceptance is at the root of nearly every sin.  Jealousy is anger about rejection.  Eve took the fruit to make her more acceptable to God, Adam probably took to be acceptable to Eve.  God has created us all with this need so that we would seek His acceptance.  Search you heart to see who your are seeking acceptance from in His place.  He is a jealous God and wants your full attention.  If you give it to Him He will take care of you.
Mar 23, 2011 6:38 PM Guest Kathryn  says in response to Catron:

Bless you Catron-  The greastest thing a woman can do is rear her children with the love and knowledge of God. You are truley doing His work, He will bless you and yours. In a world of despair, look to God and give thanks for His comfort and

grace. Pray for others as we need to share His Love and make the world a birghter place, of His Light and Truth.Always

give Him Priase and All the Glory.

 

                        Love to You and Yours, Sister Kathryn

Mar 23, 2011 6:50 PM Guest Jo L.  says:
I understand Mr. Stern's problem.  I'm a Christian Believer and I still need approval from people.  Whether it's insecurity, poor self image, or lack of a complete faith that I don't need anybody else but the love of my Jesus, I don't know.  It's just there.  It seems when someone tells me I've done a good job, yes, it does make me feel good.  I know I need to listen more closely to God to see if HE'S telling me I've done a good job. I'm working on this deficit in my walk.
Mar 23, 2011 6:58 PM Guest Spike  says in response to janet:
Much respect to any pastor who steps in there.
Mar 23, 2011 7:15 PM Guest Nestor M.  says in response to Catron:
Nothing you do could be more pleasant to your father in haven! You are also a role model of doing what is right here in earth. God Bless you and keep you and your family strong.
Mar 24, 2011 12:31 PM Guest Lightweight  says:
I don't think "Fish" are going to jump into boat,so Mr.Daily it's time to seek an interview.Bill Keller has his interviews of the show on his site,go hear them as preparation for what to expect.You will be carrying a glass of water into a desert.
Mar 23, 2011 7:26 PM Guest Lightweight  says in response to Spike:
Shame on the pastors for not having done so.
Mar 24, 2011 6:15 AM Guest Vicki  says:
EVERY knee shall bow, every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord.  Howard Stern and those like him are not exempt from this.
Mar 23, 2011 7:34 PM Guest Tim a follower of Christ  says in response to David:

For David, and anyone else who reads this . ..

Please, brother, real Christians truly should CARE what other people think of them (like never before), but we are no longer in bondage or fear about it; indeed, we might be the only people who really CAN care in the whole world, who really understand HOW to care; but more importantly, it's Christ IN US who does the caring; God makes the difference; we cannot do this on our own strength. We should never feel alone with people again, since the Lord is there in us too; every spirit led situation involves "God in me", and "them".   And woe to us unless we walk in loving submission to the Holy Spirit.  Why should we think these things? Here we go VERY breifly . . .  "Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may edify another... (Romans 14:19)"..."Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwelleth in you?"  (1 Corinthians 3:16);  "Giving no offence in any thing, that the ministry be not blamed"  (2 Corinthians 6:3) . . . "So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me. . .(Hebrews 13:6)  . . ."Hereby perceive we the love of God, because he laid down his life for us: and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren."  (1John 3:16)      do you see that? . . . . "for the brethren" one thing that means is we care what other people think of us, how they feel about things; it also means we care MORE what Jesus thinks and we let HIM live His love outworkingly so others get a sense of that. When we know the love of God, it makes us able to care what darkness thinks, yet we let Christ overcome that darkness though by our faith, through our words, and through our actions. We are His body now.  One huge way He shows His love to the world is though US caring about THEM, another is Him caring for US.

 

"Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us, Unto him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus throughout all ages, world without end. Amen" . . .  (Eph 3:20,21)

Mar 23, 2011 8:16 PM Guest Eric  says in response to janet:
I think I remember a minister from River Tree Church in N. Canton, OH being involved in something like that, what would God say to Howard Stern, Jesus Loves You Howard Stern was the answer.
Mar 23, 2011 8:17 PM orionkdt orionkdt    says:
The pastor who spoke on his show was Bill Keller in 2007. He has a show called Live Prayer and a site liveprayer.com
Mar 23, 2011 7:58 PM Guest dennis  says:
Thanks for sending this to me.  It strikes me right where I struggle in my Christian walk.
Mar 23, 2011 8:25 PM Guest Tea` J.  says:
"Needing the approval of others is a form of idolatry".  Quote that is currently on the marquee of a Baptist church on my street.  I'm inclined to agree.
Mar 23, 2011 8:26 PM Guest Kathy L.  says:

The addiction to approval is a serious addiction.  The Holy Spirit convicted me that my extremely diligent work to get recognition and approval (and honor and praise) was a very real sin in my life seven and a half years ago.  It was the source of my work addiction that was destroying my life.  I have been a committed believer in Christ for almost fifty years and it has taken years of work for me to get to the point where I am now in my recovery from these addictions.  For some of us knowing what is true in our heads takes a long time to get to our hearts because of our wounds.  So, please be gracious and understand that knowing that we are loved with everlasting love doesn't quickly and automatically release all of us from the grip of the lies that our lives' experiences have taught us to believe so deeply. If Mr. Stern is really addicted and he's serious about that, he needs our love and prayers.   

Mar 23, 2011 8:28 PM Guest Julie R.  says:

A few thoughts of others: "What's needed is not behavior modification, but a heart transformation." Joseph Prince, the charismatic Billy Graham for our time - he's on a number of different TV channels, including the Family Ch.

 

"Appearance will become more important than conception. Pure thoughts will be replaced with superficiality. The age of possibility might end up to be the age of regret." I don't know who said or wrote this, but I wrote it down last decade.

 

"A human being is, by definition, a longing for God." Allan W. Jones from Passion Pilgrimage :Notes for the Journey Home (at FOF website)

Mar 23, 2011 8:15 PM Guest Laure  says in response to Catron:

Awesome post my sister in Christ!  I also stayed at home and have raised three sons.  Your insight reguarding your purpose  will surely reflect in the lives of your children as they grow!  May God bless your family and give you strength to give it all every day!!

Mar 23, 2011 8:40 PM Guest Lisa S.  says:
Was that minister on Stern's show Bill Keller? It's so awesome that Focus references it, and in a positive way. I get Bill Keller's daily devotional emails every day. He is very bold in reaching out to the world, setting a great example for us all. He doesn't get a lot of attention from the mainstream Christian church, perhaps because he is rather outspoken. But I think he's doing a fantastic job reaching the lost. Go, Focus, for mentioning that!
Mar 23, 2011 8:42 PM Guest Lisa S.  says in response to orionkdt:
I remember listening to the broadcast of that. Stern was really touched when Bill Keller helped a very lost man who called in. It was so neat! We need more action like that. I love what Bill Keller is doing to reach the world.
Mar 23, 2011 8:35 PM Guest sue  says in response to Catron:
Thanks for posting this! I am a mother of 5 and am constantly feeling like I have accomplished nothing in this world. I struggle with this often. I appreciate your encouraging words!
Mar 24, 2011 6:54 AM Guest Mickey  says in response to Laure:
What a timely post. This evening our Men's Group was listening to Tommy Nelson's discussion of the Parable of the Wheat and Tares. Pastor Tommy spent some time identifying Biblical mandates to be aware of the false prophets and others who would want to lead the church away from the Truth, and then proceeded to discuss the interaction between Jesus and the angels about judging the tares and clearing them out of the wheat field before they could be identified by their lack of fruit. We discussed that interaction for some time but it became clear that Jesus was being consistent with His teaching that we should care for our neighbor and love one another as we love ourselves. We should be discerning but not judgmental. We are also engouraged to count it all joy when we are tested. Jesus even gave us a parable about who is our neighbor. Several other responders have commented on the potential this interaction with this tare has in relation to his becoming fruitful for the Kingdom. The Lord is great and mighty - I certainly don't want to limit His ability to do anything!
Mar 24, 2011 9:48 AM Guest Marshall B.  says in response to Catron:
Dear Catron: It may have been Disraeli, of Great Britain, or some other equally well known person who said, "the hand that rocks the cradle rules the nation." Ma'am, if I were standing near you, I would bow to you and then salute you. What you have been doing is far more important, vastly more important than what President Obama, the Presidential Cabinet, the US Senate, the US House of Representatives, the Supreme Court of the US, the Governors, legislatures and courts of all the states, etc. combined have been doing.  You should be revered and honored. There IS NO MORE IMPORTANT, NO MORE INFLUENTIAL, NO MORE VASTLY IMPORTANT position to our nation and world than that of a good, Christian mother like yourself! PLEASE DO NOT EVER FORGET THAT!   My own dear mother is in the hospital having had a "stroke" on this, the eve of my 60th birthday. I wish to the Lord I could tell her that right now, just as I have also told you, however, I cannot and may have to wait until we are in Christ's Eternal Kingdom to tell her that.  But, I am telling you, it is a truth that rings down through the ages and women like you and my mother and all other good, Christian mothers ARE the MOST IMPORTANT, MOST INFLUENTIAL people in the the world CRUCIAL to the survival of any nation!  May God RICHLY BLESS you and your family.  I praise and thank God for good women like YOU!
Mar 24, 2011 6:23 AM Guest Cindy  says in response to Catron:

To Catron,

I was a stay-at-home mom for many years to five children.  I homeschooled all of them in their elementary years, some longer than others. I spent a total of 21 years home before I took a job (part-time during school hours only) outside the home.  There were times I questioned my worth and the worth of all I was doing.  Now my children range in age from 13 to 24.  The three oldest are sincerely following the Lord and have chosen to make Christ the center of their lives.  That brings such joy to mine and my husband's hearts. One is even a missionary overseas.  The two youngest profess to be Christians and are seeking God, though I do believe they still need to go through that process of making the faith they have been taught their very own. I enjoyed being a mother when they were young but I really am enjoying being a mother now, and relating to my children. I don't have any regrets about all those years spent with them.  I feel now that I am reaping so much joy and satisfaction.

Mar 23, 2011 9:35 PM Guest Debbie  says in response to Catron:
Catron-Don't ever think you are "just" an at-home mom!  Everyone told me kids grow up so fast & now that there are big, I see they were right.  I quit my full-time, high-paying, high-profile job to be a full-time mom & when I took the "baby" to kindergarten, I was so proud to know that I did the right thing.  Bless you for putting "first things first".
Mar 23, 2011 9:36 PM Guest Jim D.  says:
This seems like a "nothing" story that Howard Stern is "addicted to approval."   That is not any admission at all, in my opinion, and not a problem worth elevating.    Our culture is so psychologically focused that even "Biggest Loser" seems to be a program on psychoanalysis, and we can't wait to find out the psychology of the latest mass murderer, and how it drove him to do what he did.
Mar 23, 2011 10:05 PM Guest Terri  says in response to Catron:
Good for you!  You are wise to go to God for your Kudos instead of the world around us.  What can be better for us but to use our own education to raise up godly children?  Then use it again for good when the kids are gone.
Mar 23, 2011 10:42 PM Guest Sarabeth  says in response to Catron:
I'm in the same boat as you (in terms of stage in life and thinking about what we're "accomplishing")...and your words are encouraging. Thank you!!
Mar 24, 2011 6:33 AM Guest Shanouw  says in response to David:
Sorry, but the idea that once we are saved by faith we stop caring what others think is idealistic but not very realistic. It takes a mature, wise and well seasoned Christian to reach this point and it is a process...in most cases.  It is what we all are hopefully shooting for.  God bless you.
Mar 23, 2011 11:20 PM Guest shanouw  says in response to Tim a follower of Christ:
Well, said, Tim.
Mar 24, 2011 1:31 AM Guest Kim  says in response to Catron:
Continue to listen to God's whisper in your ear - He is indeed pleased with you.  The time and attention you're giving to three precious lives is worth far more than many a "busy" executive's work.  God's economy is not ours.  If you can find the precious few minutes time - read C.S. Lewis's book, The Great Divorce.  I often think of his wonderful, amusing and wise picture of heaven and who God honors there for the often unseen work they did here on earth.  Hang in there and enjoy the love of the wonderful children God's given you.  It is a tremendous responsibility and, all too soon, they will be using the things you've tried to sew in their lives and heading out on their own.  God bless!
Mar 24, 2011 6:39 AM Guest Kathryn  says:

Being a Christian is trusting and putting all of our hopes in God, We call on Him, our heavenly father, and we look to Jesus, The Son of God, whom was a man on earth following God's Law, we seek to become Christ-Like, calling out to Him for His

guidance and instruction. When we follow Him and Let Him lead the Way, God puts on feet on the path to heaven, He fills

us with His Holy Spirit, sacrifice becomes a blessing- as that is Jesus- giving, caring, sharing, honest and faithful, Light and

Truth, for these gifts are the gifts God offers, the desires of the Heart, where dreams are born, angels sing, the blessing

The Faith and the Light.

 

  Praise Jesus

  Amen!

Mar 24, 2011 3:53 AM Guest Diane  says:
We can all identify with wanting approval and recognition, but I am reminded that when I compare myself with perfect, I will never measure up.  If I did, then I would be calling myself God--and I am not up to that.  We acknowledge our sin and asked for forgiveness, and God is faithful to forgive us and casts that sin into the sea of forgiveness.  We then get out our fishing poles, throw that hook in and reel the sin right back so we can wallow in it--we tell God how we are burdened with that sin and he says, "What sin?  I don't remember that sin!"  It's time to put the NO FISHING! signs up!  What we need to do all along is to let yesterday be in the past and take quiet time to concentrate on what God is preparing us for, our very own unique ministry that we can live fully because of Jesus Christ and our personal helper, the Holy Spirit.  It just doesn't get any better than that!  Howard and Oprah would be so relieved that they each have a greater gift--be open to it.  We certainly can pray for that!
Mar 24, 2011 4:29 AM Guest C.J.  says in response to Catron:
@Catron  Kudos!  You don't need my affirmation but I will give it to you, though it pales in significance in comparison to God's.  You are doing a job that is the most important one in the world, I believe.  What you do in loving those little ones will affect generations to come.  I am completing my child raising now...only one more to go.  It is, as the Peace Corps used to say, "the toughest job you'll ever love"...You are battling for your children and teaching them how to relate to one another, to relate as a family...and to relate to God.  In this day and age that is no small task!  I am cheering you on! As one mother to another!  Keep up the good work...the God work!  Find your strength in Him...Your accomplishments as a mom are His greater purpose!  (And He knows those days where you fail or want to give up...He covers you with His grace!)  I'm praying for you!  As my mother told me just before she died...on those days when you feel so very frustrated and you're yelling...stop, take a breath, grab your favorite story book and sit down with them and read...It's about relationship...and God loves relationship!
Mar 24, 2011 5:17 AM Guest Sharon  says in response to Catron:
Catron, you said it so well.  "He will complete me and His work in me to serve His greater purpose."  We were happily racing through the life with 2 teens and a 10 year old -you know, the sports, the schedule etc., when along came Angela.  She has in 3 years brought such a gentleness to our whole family.  When we became able to release the pain of what she would not accomplish as a Downs child, we gained so much understanding of what she came to give.  We are so much more complete than we could have been before she came.  God's little gifts are all good!
Mar 24, 2011 12:37 PM Guest Bob M.  says:
Jesus says: "When you know what I do and you do it, your will be my friend." The need within us to love one another, to be accepted by one another, and to be approved by one another is part of our human nature. Jesus goes on to say: "You cannot serve God and serve others. You cannot serve two masters. Love one another as I love you. There is no greater love than this. Lay down your life for your friends." And Jesus went out and laid down his life, for you, and me, and all of the members of the family of God. Love to all.
Mar 24, 2011 6:10 AM Guest Jeff  says:
It would be wrong to think of Stern as anything other than sinful man, as are we all. Only through Christ are we made perfect and presentable to God.If God can save me, then he can save Howard Stern. I think we might be really suprised who will be with us in heaven someday.
Mar 24, 2011 6:13 AM Guest KC  says:
Another fantastic book on the subject: Robert McGee's "Search For Significance" In it he defines the world's formula for significance as; My performance plus other people's opinion. I greatly enjoy Tim Keller, but this also is a wonderful book!
Mar 24, 2011 6:50 AM Guest Ashley  says:

I'll be praying for Mr. Stern. In a way, I know how he feels. I struggled with a "people-pleasing" issue for years. Psychologists call it neurotic imposture. I even did a paper on it in college. I call it addiction to perfectionsim. I thought I would be a failure for the rest of my life. Then I met Jesus. He accepts even my most pathetic failures if I seek Him with a whole heart.

 

If God can use Peter, the most capital mess-up of the 12, and if He can use Paul, once Saul the mass-murderer, then there's hope for me, and yes, even for Mr. Stern.

Mar 24, 2011 6:45 AM Guest Jeri  says in response to Catron:
Catron,  Your children and the world have such a blessing in you!  You are doing one of the hardest jobs in the world, and doing it well, by the way!  There's is little approval in the job of motherhood.  Yet, you look to your Heavenly Father for grace for each day, and I know He gives generously.  I am a mother of four children, all grown now, and remember the many days and moments I felt like you.  I praise God there are still wonderful committed mothers like you raising up the next generation to be godly adults.  Thank you for sharing your thoughts.  I pray God pours out His richest blessings on you and your family!
Mar 24, 2011 6:47 AM Guest Jamie  says in response to Catron:

Good for you Catron....don't even for one minute think that what you do every day as a stay at home mother is less important or meanginful than a professional alternative.  Just think about the investment and the impact you are making in your children.  My wife only works part time and I wish so badly that she could stay at home every day, but at the same time she is such a blessing by helping supplement our income.   I commend you and other mothers like you!  May the Lord bless you every day as you juggle all of your responsibilites.  Have a great day!

Mar 24, 2011 9:15 AM Guest Cookie  says in response to Catron:

Catron, I understand what you are saying.  When I was younger, I'm now a grandma to 4, I felt the same way.  One thing we fail to see is that we are obedient servants to the Lord and our family.  This is a privilege.  Jesus was often looking for the needs of others~washing their feet, healing the sick~it is He who you serve.

When you look back you will be pleased as you know that you loved your family in a TANGIBLE way~that will be your delight.  The people you serve will understand the love you gave and bless you when they have little ones of their own.  But, for today, let me say, you are my hero!

Mar 24, 2011 6:53 AM Guest Chris H  says:
Jim, I can't tell you how much I appreciate the bold, arrow-to-the-heart "truthiness" of your recent blog posts.  Thanks so much for your dedication to bringing all of these societal issues upon which you comment back to the Gospel.  Thanks for your commitment to The Truth!.  Great job and don't ever get discouraged about whether your organization's efforts are in vain!  Most of all, despite the tone of my comments, don't get your affirmation from me, but from our Savior, who I am convinced is smiling down on Focus on the Family!
Mar 24, 2011 9:17 AM Guest JAR  says in response to Catron:
Dear Heart, I can so relate.  But as I'm nearing the end of the 'Mommy" assignment, I can see how valuable my staying home with my kids has been.  It is a great gift to our children, one that they may never really appreciate,or at least not for a while.  My mom stayed home with us when she could but she often had to work.  We were happy children when Mom was able to be a stay at home mom.  I KNOW that being a mom, at home, is a blessing to our kids.  I knew it when they were babies.  But the "world" tells us we are not ambitious enough if "all we want to be" is a stay at home mom.  The "world" doesn't know how wrong it is.  I had people tell me that I was wasting my college education by being a stay at home mom!  That's a lie too.  My kids have benefitted from my education in that my education enhanced my knowledge base and self-confidence and self-esteem and I also ended up feeling that it was within my ability to marry someone who also had a college education.  A spouse with an education is a plus for that spouse's self-esteem and confidence and also in an economic sense.  So hang in there lady!  You are doing the right thing!
Mar 24, 2011 10:15 AM Guest Fred M.  says:
The longing to be adored is just another divine attribute that was communicated to humans. Everyone has it. Entertainers just have more of it.
Mar 24, 2011 8:56 AM Guest momofmanyblessings  says in response to Catron:

Wow...thank you for posting Catron! I feel the exact same way.  You put what continually swirls in my mind into words on the screen.  The world wants someone else to raise your children while you go to work to pay off debt for new clothes for yourself to return to work, gas at $3.50 a gallon, daycare, extra trips to the doctor because they are in daycare..I could go on and on.  At the end of the crazy day, it is me who read them a book, it is me who wiped their tears, it is me who fed them breakfast, lunch and dinner.  It is me who teaches scripture and manners.  When my husband comes home from work and they run to him in happiness that he is home and they get a break from mom, I also get a break.  I am so blessed to be at home with my children.  It would be MUCH easier to work in the corporate world.  Easy, as you well know, is not always best.  When I had my first child, when she would nap for two hours I would spend that whole two hours in my quiet time with God. Now, if I can spend 20 minutes with Him alone, I have accomplished something.  I am constantly apologizing to Him for my time management, when He is constantly carrying me!

Thank you so much for your comments!  Please know that you have been very encouraging and have ministered to this mommy's heart!  Have a sweet day with your little ones and blessings to you and your family.

Mar 24, 2011 8:58 AM Guest Kerry  says in response to David:
@David. I hear ya. But, having been born again (Acts 2:38) for 20 years and having seen many other brothers and sisters born again, I've witnessed confusion over the years between caring what Christ thinks of us and what others (who are in Christ) think of us. Gaining the approval of others (even those in the faith) often seems like we are attaining the approval of Christ. It's so much harder than it appears, my friend.
Mar 24, 2011 9:05 AM Guest Cindy  says in response to Catron:

Oh, Catron, you are doing the most wonderful and thankless job in the world - God bless you!  I, too, chose to stay home with my children and I sometimes felt as you do now.  But let me tell you, my husband and I have 2 of the greatest kids ever!  They are now 26 and soon to be 23.  They're both believers, college educated and gainfully employed!!!  My daughter is marrying a wonderful Christian man in October and we couldn't be happier (of course, I've been praying for their mates since they were small.)  Our kids are very respectful and well-liked, and we all love spending time together.  They don't drink, smoke, or swear.  I don't think they became the people they are by accident...a lot of love, prayer and hard work went into their upbringing.  Keep on doing what you're doing; the time passes by so quickly and you'll have "you" time before you know it.

Mar 24, 2011 2:46 PM Guest Believer  says in response to David:

I'm a believer, and I want people to care for me. At the cost of denying  Christ? No, of course not.

 

But to say that believers don't struggle with the same issues as unbelievers  is ignorant.

Mar 24, 2011 9:20 AM Guest Christie  says in response to Catron:

Thank you Catron for your comment.  I, too, am a stay at home mom (of 4), and I am so very grateful to God for this opportunity.  Your reminder that in times of worldly pressures and influences bearing down on us we can find our completion in our Savior was, for me, so affirming.

Thank you God, for fellow Christians' encouraging words and prayers,as they are gifts from you.  AMEN.

Mar 24, 2011 10:52 AM Guest Brian P.  says:

Dear Jim:

If truth be known, would we not find that many a pastor, ministry leader, etc. would be in the same boat.  Think of an Old Testament character like Elijah coming to tell the king the truth about what God thought, compared to the many prophets who echoed encouraging words to the king, knowing God did not speak thus.

Under peer pressure how many of us don't speak what the audience need to hear, but give them tickling words of pleasant thoughts.  How many of us find ourselves compromising what God wants done for our kids, spouses, friends, because we refuse to lose popularity.   In checking my own life over in the past, I am most popular when am operating in the flesh.  When operating in the spirit, I am considered out of touch, inconsiderate, not with the times, etc.

Jesus sent the masses away when spoke tough to the crowds.  How many churches are more interested in the numbers, rather than the changed lives.

God Bless, and trust this helps,

Brian from London, Canada

Mar 25, 2011 8:52 AM Guest Bill D.  says:
Why do so many continue to fawn over Tim Keller while he displays his belief in evolution in his books and in his 'white paper' at BioLogos.com? You can compromise your stand on biblical authority, but why?
Mar 24, 2011 12:25 PM Guest Knights Of Columbus  says in response to sue:
I read an article in the USA Today newspaper saying that in the last few years, some newscasters on some radio stations were worse than Howard Stern with the use of obscene and profane language. The FCC has been lowering it's standards therby, contributing to more substandard language being used on the air. My older sister and my youngest granddaughter called me up last night and said "Would you believe what you just heard on WPFW and NPR?" My jaws dropped as I heard their accounts of the stories. This is the kind of world we live in today. As a grandparent, I am afraid of letting my young ones out at night due to what we hear on the news.
Mar 24, 2011 10:54 AM Guest Sehila  says:

This is why Max Lucado's book The Applause of Heaven was so impacting to me.  It is so much nicer to be paid to answer the phone, take complaints and fill out forms than to do it all for an unappreciative audience of little ones.  I found myself on endless phone calls with clients who not only paid me but followed my advice! How unlike teenagers and how enticing.  Yet God showed me the assignments He had for me and I know He is applauding as I do the "works prepared beforehand"

With thankfulness and praise,

a single mom of three and now a grandma.

Mar 24, 2011 12:05 PM Guest Annie  says in response to Catron:
It is good to know I am not the only one who feels EXACTLY this way. From a cop to a SAHM, I sometimes wonder if what I am doing now is making a difference. Thanks for the reminder that my worth is not in my career accomplishments
Mar 24, 2011 12:36 PM Guest Susan  says in response to Lisa S.:
Yes...Bill Keller is very DIRECT and bold....I love to read his devotionals...unfortunately, my internet provider keeps 'kicking him off'' of inbox deliveries to me.....this has been a problem...and Bill is aware of it!  Do you think Satan is working extra hard for us not to receive what Bill is delivering to us from the Lord?  Ya think? His - Satan's- days are numbered....and he's working extremely hard from his desk in Death Row....Praise God that Jesus' blood has covered my sins....and I'm free from that deceiver.....
Mar 24, 2011 12:45 PM Guest Shirley J.  says:
I am 78 years old and a child of God... it took me many years to learn this simple lesson.. God loves me just as I am.
Mar 24, 2011 1:11 PM Guest Joseph S.  says:
I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me." (Gal. 2:20)  So perfectionism, people pleasing, and every other addiction and idol gets nailed to the cross.  (If I want to try to live up to The Law/have stellar behavior, I see how fast the last sentence comes back with a vengence- and it seems sin reigns in my life, not Jesus.)  He gave me a new heart (Ezek. 36:25-27).  Actually, I am a new creation- old things are passed away and behold, all things have become new (2 Cor. 5:17).  And He has plans for me. (Jer. 29:11)  He has works prepared in advance for me to do (Eph. 2:10) and even greater things than He; Jesus, did. (Jn. 14:12)  It is Christ in me- my power, my energy, to accomplish this! (Col. 1:29)  I don't have to run around hoping to find myself in God's will- the way people in the kingdom of darkness hopelssly try to manuver themselves where they are in the right place at the right time, no, He leads me into paths of righteousness (Psalm 23).  Oh Jesus that I would desire an audience of One!  I am as valuable as the richest and/or most famous person the world puts on a pedestal. So, I perform for no one.  Instead, I trust the Lord who's love for me is so great I can never thank Him enough.  His love for me compels me to share Him and His love with others and I end up pleasing Him by trusting Him and (He says this is) obeying Him. 
"His eye is on the sparrow, and I know He watches me."   It's a line from a song taken from Matt. 6.  Believe it?  What a concept.  Another line, "I sing because I'm happy, I sing because I'm free."  May we be free from this world's lies.      
Mar 24, 2011 1:30 PM Guest Jenn C.  says in response to Catron:
Amen, sister!  I have had to come to that place of joy and acceptance of my choice 8 years ago to quit my job as a civil engineer to be at home with my two kiddos.  Now I must daily rely on God to not find my self worth in my childrens accomplishments and failures!  Praise God for the opportunity to display for our children what it looks like to find our value and great worth in Christ!
Mar 24, 2011 5:51 PM Guest Mark W.  says:
Tim Keller is so right , counterfit gods are always brutal, extracting the soul as payment..
Mar 25, 2011 7:10 AM Guest Jan s.  says:

I've always felt he was in pain, even though I have only seen him a few times on different television programs through the years. His "humor" just screams "LOOK AT ME!' It's just so sad to me that people can't see through his vulgarity and instead pity him. I will pray for

God's intervention in his life. Can you imagine it? I can. God is good...all the time!

Mar 25, 2011 3:16 AM Guest Kirsten  says in response to David:
I agree, David, that is the ideal, not caring what others think of us.  Unfortunately this 'ideal' wears off as we fall back into our old ways, and seek ways of finding value, self-worth and approval in the world.  It is about a constant 'renewing' of our faith that God will provide all we need, that we are worthy in His eyes!
Mar 25, 2011 7:12 AM Guest Laura  says:

It's all about pride --God hates pride-it's the root of all woes.

 

Mar 25, 2011 7:46 AM Guest Betsy  says:

Betsy says in response to Janet:

 

That pastor would be Paster Bill Keller, his website address is LivePrayer.com. He has been reaching out to the unsaved of this world for a long time.

Mar 25, 2011 10:50 AM Guest Knights Of Columbus  says:

I really thank you for your service!

As a grandparent, I feel boxed in a closet listening to the issues on the news about parents letting their kids drive their cars and party with the other kids and come back with the county police. Don't you think that the embarrassment would teach the parents that responsibility begins at home? This is a wake-up call for the public.  Our marriage fortunately is good because our offspring learn from us on how to live and divorces are somewhat symbiotic. Our sons, daughters, grandsons and granddaughters are happily married so far unless a change happens in the family.  Hopefully, things will stay good in our family!

Mar 25, 2011 2:26 PM Guest Jessica  says in response to Catron:

We all struggled with knowing that Jesus loves us and that we are complete in Christ.

I'm a SAHM for right now, and I love taking this "vacation" from my career to have time with my daughter. However, I am sometimes hurt by other SAHM's who brag constantly about their choice to stay at home. (We're all full-time parents, whether we work in an office or stay home with our kids)

My reply is that I am no more pleasing to God as a SAHM than I was when I went to the office every day. I please God ONLY because of Christ's sacrifice, not because I took a vacation to be with my daughter.

Mar 25, 2011 12:34 PM Guest Tina H.  says:
yes
Apr 5, 2011 11:41 PM Guest Haley  says:

'Things that make you go hmmm!'  Such a good reminder of our struggles and temptations.  Convivting needless to say.  Great article, excellent perspective and point.  Thank you for sharing!  Thanks be to Christ!

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